James A Rutherford Funeral Home
What makes it hard for people to get prepared about anything?
Fears. Filters. Finances: And when it comes to getting information about end of life stuff – especially then.
But I am making it about as easy as it can be at the next Death & Dying pop-up on Saturday, October 28, 2023, between 10 am and 5 pm. 125 Downie Street, Stratford. (Just south of the Fosters Inn)
Walk in. Ask questions. Have a conversation. Or just grab the information that you should have. It's empowering and it won't kill you.
Information about: Wills / Probate / Cemetery / Funeral Preparation / How to keep funeral costs down / MAID / Things you need and things you don't / Body Donation / Cremation / Aquamation
If you want to know more about why it seems hard to prepare, keep reading... because it's not.
FEAR: Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or is a threat. In the context of what we are talking about here, there are those who have attached a superstition to their fear and it goes like this: “If I prepare now… I'm somehow going to die prematurely." Fears are most often irrational in today's world. We create a whole gamut of scenarios to feed upon and this one is like saying “If I buy this car, I'm going to have an accident." That's the nature of superstition and irrationality I suppose. They stop us in our tracks and our control walks out the door without us.
FILTERS: Our filters are more sequestered from our conscience. Although the mind's voice speaks to us constantly, the filter re-shapes our preferences, changes ideas around, adds words like “soon" or “when" or “tomorrow." The fact of the matter is we'd rather do this or do that right now. We cushion our world and ideas through the various filters of our desires, preferences and experiences. A good example of this is rationalizing smoking because “there are toxins in the air that could kill me anyway." Similarly, “why prepare end of life stuff when I'll be dead and won't know anyway." Believe me, I know those you care about will thank you. Guaranteed.
FINANCES: And finally, our finances prevent us from taking care of the act of planning. The thing about this one is that finances don't even have to come into the equation unless one wishes it. There are two kinds of preparations. A pre-discussion only or a pre-paid arrangement. Both take less than an hour. Both are miles ahead of doing nothing.
But you need the information first! Stop in and pick it up.
UNTIL SOON. LIVE WELL.